Modding on the Spectrum

Today I received the response from the landlord, earlier than expected: they have chosen me for the flat :sn-13:! I just need to submit the documents the landlord needs to review (such as payslips) by 11 September. If everything is in order, I can sign the lease agreement.

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I viewed the other flat and expressed my interest in it. The landlord will let me know at the beginning of next week whether I will get the flat, as I am not the only applicant.

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Fingers, toes, and eyes crossed.... Good luck.

I viewed the other flat and expressed my interest in it. The landlord will let me know at the beginning of next week whether I will get the flat, as I am not the only applicant.

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I have my next flat viewing appointment next Tuesday. I'm looking forward to it.

As for my neighbour, he's less noisy at the moment. I was even able to sleep through the night last night. I know from experience that this situation can change again. If it gets much worse again, I have a few options for staying somewhere else temporarily.

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You know, as a contractor what really bothers me is how simple the 'slamming door' issue is to fix. There are small 'self-sticking' cork, or felt squares, available at any hardware store that are usually used as replacement 'feet' so project boxes don't slide around and scratch the furniture.[/quote]
If it ever comes to a mediation meeting, I will suggest this. According to the reply to my last email, the neighbourhood manager is in contact with the ombudsman's office. Unfortunately, the reply did not provide any more specific information.


Yesterday was the flat viewing appointment: The flat had less thin walls, but the noise from the very busy road just behind the house was too much (and I don't want to keep the windows closed all the time). So I'm looking for other flats that will hopefully suit my needs better. That's why I'm having a face-to-face meeting with my caseworker on 5 August to make it clear to her that my extreme sensitivity to noise needs to be taken into account when proposing flats (putting me in a large building with umpteen flats and probably very thin walls is counterproductive).

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You know, as a contractor what really bothers me is how simple the 'slamming door' issue is to fix. There are small 'self-sticking' cork, or felt squares, available at any hardware store that are usually used as replacement 'feet' so project boxes don't slide around and scratch the furniture.

Just two of them stuck to the inside of the jamb on the latch side would effectively silence the slamming. And the material cost would be next to nothing. I use them to silence kitchen cabinet doors all the time. Felt would probably be better for a full size door, but we're talking pennies, and a five minute fix.

Here's a sample link from a local store... For the price of a cup of coffee...

https://www.acehardware.com/departments/home-and-decor/furniture/protective-furniture-pads/5089545

I was visiting my mother from 1 July to 18 July. This weekend I'm staying at my sister's flat. On Monday, I'm moving into the emergency flat of an aid and welfare organisation, where I can stay until 18 August. I hope that I can recover enough there and make further progress with my moving plans. Because I haven't really been able to recover due to the trampling neighbours above my mother.

My landlord recently sent me an offer for a flat! I have my first flat viewing appointment next week on Wednesday. But the other flat is also in a tower block and will probably also have thin walls. I'm going to look at it anyway to show the landlord my good intentions and to gain some experience.

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I have to flee my flat again because of the never-ending torture of slamming doors. It had got so bad again in the last few days that I once again had no control over my emotions and started screaming again out of sheer desperation. And again the neighbours complained about me to the concierge. This time he would pass the complaints on to the caretaker. As a result, I felt so miserable that I could no longer work properly. The doctor has put me on sick leave until 9 July. I'm now travelling to my mother's flat in the middle of the night to recover from this stress.

By the way, the landlord contacted me about my wish for a new flat. Unfortunately, they don't have anything suitable for me at the moment. That's why I'll be looking for flats with other housing associations as soon as I'm feeling a bit better.

Shortly before I left, I finally sent the email to the neighbourhood manager asking for a mediation meeting. I should have done this months ago, but I put it off for too long because of my anxiety. Thanks to my friend's encouragement, I was able to overcome the anxiety for a moment.

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[quote=Selene310187 post_id=2880 time=1745340841 user_id=2]Instead, we're going to concentrate on the move. This Friday the paintwork will be checked by the caretaker. If everything is in order, the next step is for the landlord to give me suggestions for a new apartment.
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The caretaker checked the paintwork today (I had to reschedule the appointment for another day). Everything is in order. I've finally taken another step forward with my moving plans.

My mum was also there. This time she listened more closely. She thinks my apartment has extremely thin walls. For example, she heard my neighbour clearing his throat and a clacking noise. She then said it's no wonder I go crazy in this apartment.

I have a theory about the door slamming. I just remembered a note that was on the main entrance door a few months ago. In it, a person asked for the squeaking of the door to please stop. Sometime after that, I didn't hear the squeaking anymore and instead heard the slamming of doors. If my theory is correct, I am not the “direct” victim but a victim of “collateral damage”.