Modding on the Spectrum

I'm glad that you still find time for the bands, the choir, and your mods alongside your work. If I would work 8 hours a day, I wouldn't have any energy left to work on my mods. But I have accepted that I can only work part-time. I can work overtime for short periods though, but working longer hours permanently will make me ill in the long run. I think this is related to my masking.

A paleofdye n wrote: ↑Thu Sep 25, 2025 11:40 amIt amazes me how i get any work done on my mod at all sometimes and it should worry me how little i sleep.

In the past, my sleep suffered greatly because I often worked on my mods until 3 or 4 in the morning. Then my neighbor robbed me of my sleep with noise pollution, causing me to develop insomnia. Over the last few months, the situation has improved: my neighbor has become quieter and I have my insomnia largely under control with the help of medication. As for working on my mods, I now make sure that I stop in time to get enough sleep. Of course, I don't always succeed. I then try to go to bed by 2 a.m. at the latest. Because I know how exhausted I will feel if I only get a few hours of sleep.


It was now the second Saturday that my mother had visited me to help me pack the moving boxes. Without her, I would really be lost because I lack experience. We got a lot done today, but we still have a lot ahead of us. Next week, I'll be clearing out more things like dictionaries (I can't even remember the last time I looked something up in one, since I only use the internet for that now), shoes, and electronic waste.

I'll tell a little about my situation right now

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I am tired from yesterdays events and i am writing this sitting at my office enjoying a hardpressed 15 minute rest. Yesterday i started work at 7 a.m., as usual, but what started of as a normal 8 hour workday turned into a 12 hour workday. No time to head home after work as i was already late for band practise ( i play guitar in a couple of local bands). By 10 p.m. i'm finally home and can grab something to eat. I do some problemsolving in the mod i make for oblivion (a troublesome nif had to be tracked down and disposed of) and shortly after 1 a.m. i go to bed.

Right, so i wake up today to yet another buzzy day at work, but today when i get off work at 3 p.m. i'll have to hurry on to a local pub where the other band where i play guitar, have soundcheck at 4 p.m. and playing live at 5 p.m.

I can already predict that i'm going to be strugling tomorrow at work as it will be another late night this evening where i squize in some modding just before bedtime. I am not looking forward to tuesday next week either, as the choir i sing with (tenor btw) is doing a 3 hour long concert and i have no idea what songs we are doing because i missed a few practise sessions lately, (tuesday is every weeks choir practise day btw) i'll have to set aside a lot of time this weekend to rehearse for it. It amazes me how i get any work done on my mod at all sometimes and it should worry me how little i sleep.

Friday is the day i work out at a gym after work and saturday i usually have to do necessary shopping which means 1-2 hour drive by car each way, to the nearest big shopping mall, and walking around shopping for a several hours which is not my favorite part of the experience, well thats what living in a small rural backwater town is like I guess. Which leaves me only sunday to catch up on my sleep, and try to relax. Not complaining though, I know others have bigger issues and I should learn to say no to things

I will continue to talk about my move here, as I want to move on from the topic of conflicts with the neighbour.

Yesterday, I received the rental agreement for the new flat and lots of other documents that I had to sign. Today, I handed everything over to the landlord. The landlord will then send my copies back to me. I have decided to give notice on my old flat on November 30 so that I have a month to move and do the renovation work. I will then have to pay double rent for one month, but in return I will have less stress.

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Today, I celebrated a friend's birthday with my best friend and her coworker (the three of them are all coworkers). We went to a burger restaurant. While the three of them ate burgers, I chose a salad with goat cheese and sesame dressing for a change (the salad was very good, by the way). Afterwards, we went to a café. It was very quiet because we were the only guests shortly before closing time. After that, we went window shopping. It was a very nice day and the weather was mostly good.

Selene310187 wrote: ↑Wed Aug 20, 2025 7:59 am everything went smoothly without too much stress.

Glad your return was stress free. Fingers crossed that's a sign of things to come.

I've been back at work for a good week now and have completed two data exports. Thanks to the support of my colleague and the fact that the organisers hadn't sent so many events for the respective event calendars, everything went smoothly without too much stress.

Good luck Selene. I completely understand wanting structure. The biggest hurdle to me actually retiring is filling my day. I'm almost there. I've re-invented my business from contracting /construction, to just basic minor repair jobs, I can pick and choose. I still need a reason to get out of the house and socialize. Being a handyman at the resort gives me that reason.

Sorry you still have to deal with the neighbors. Hopefully you can find a nice flat on the top floor in a quiet neighborhood that suits you. Fingers crossed. It's a pain in the rump, but the ultimate solution will be to literally 'find a place you can live with'

I wish you peace and luck

After six weeks on sick leave, I'm going back to work on Monday. I need some structure in my day and I miss my colleagues. I'll be staying in the emergency flat until 18 August. After that, I'll have to go back to my old flat and put up with the neighbour who was the main reason for my sick leave. A good friend has offered to let me stay with him in his house temporarily. The problem is that I really don't like being a burden on people, so I have a hard time accepting help. But deep down, I know I have to take a leap of faith.

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The site was down for several hours for reasons unknown to me. I contacted the support but haven't received an answer yet. Now the site is working again.

Edit:

I got a reply from the support. They said that there was a problem with the server and the technical team was able to solve it.

The forum has now over 500 members ! Let's celebrate