Neighbour brings me to the brink of a nervous breakdown

[Selene310187]

The public order office contacted me about the incident on 4 April at 1 am (the night I first called the police about the constant slamming of doors). They asked me for a written witness statement. I received the letter very late (only yesterday and the letter was dated 9 April). That's why I called the woman from the public order office today and told her about it. She will wait longer because of the public holidays. She was very friendly and understands my situation.

The problem is that I don't currently have any witnesses and the public order office can't do much without witnesses. But I should still send her my witness statement. I dropped the letter off at the post office earlier.

Because of my social anxiety, I have difficulties asking the neighbours who live near the neighbour in question whether they noticed anything on the night in question. My mum has offered to help me with this, but it won't happen until after Easter. I mentioned these difficulties in my witness statement. I wrote that I would try anyway and that I would provide witnesses later.

The woman from the public order office gave me a tip: I could describe my problem with the neighbour to the contact police in my district and they could in turn speak into his conscience in a friendly manner.

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[Selene310187]

I was woken up this morning at around 5 o'clock by a slamming door. It couldn't have been the person I suspected. According to the concierge, he was on the night shift and didn't come back until around 8am. His friend was in his own apartment (I mean I saw the friend leave, actually I only saw him from behind). So who's the door slammer now? Because of today's realization, my mother and I are not going to look around for witnesses after all.

Instead, we're going to concentrate on the move. This Friday the paintwork will be checked by the caretaker. If everything is in order, the next step is for the landlord to give me suggestions for a new apartment.

The vacation has done me good, so I can react more calmly to the slamming doors. Today I worked from home for a change and thanks to the earplugs and headphones I was able to ignore the slamming doors for a while. At around 3 p.m., I'd had enough and reprimanded the person. After that, it was quiet again.

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[Selene310187]

I have a theory about the door slamming. I just remembered a note that was on the main entrance door a few months ago. In it, a person asked for the squeaking of the door to please stop. Sometime after that, I didn't hear the squeaking anymore and instead heard the slamming of doors. If my theory is correct, I am not the “direct” victim but a victim of “collateral damage”.

[Selene310187]

Instead, we're going to concentrate on the move. This Friday the paintwork will be checked by the caretaker. If everything is in order, the next step is for the landlord to give me suggestions for a new apartment.

The caretaker checked the paintwork today (I had to reschedule the appointment for another day). Everything is in order. I've finally taken another step forward with my moving plans.

My mum was also there. This time she listened more closely. She thinks my apartment has extremely thin walls. For example, she heard my neighbour clearing his throat and a clacking noise. She then said it's no wonder I go crazy in this apartment.

[Selene310187]

I have to flee my flat again because of the never-ending torture of slamming doors. It had got so bad again in the last few days that I once again had no control over my emotions and started screaming again out of sheer desperation. And again the neighbours complained about me to the concierge. This time he would pass the complaints on to the caretaker. As a result, I felt so miserable that I could no longer work properly. The doctor has put me on sick leave until 9 July. I'm now travelling to my mother's flat in the middle of the night to recover from this stress.

By the way, the landlord contacted me about my wish for a new flat. Unfortunately, they don't have anything suitable for me at the moment. That's why I'll be looking for flats with other housing associations as soon as I'm feeling a bit better.

Shortly before I left, I finally sent the email to the neighbourhood manager asking for a mediation meeting. I should have done this months ago, but I put it off for too long because of my anxiety. Thanks to my friend's encouragement, I was able to overcome the anxiety for a moment.

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[Selene310187]

I was visiting my mother from 1 July to 18 July. This weekend I'm staying at my sister's flat. On Monday, I'm moving into the emergency flat of an aid and welfare organisation, where I can stay until 18 August. I hope that I can recover enough there and make further progress with my moving plans. Because I haven't really been able to recover due to the trampling neighbours above my mother.

My landlord recently sent me an offer for a flat! I have my first flat viewing appointment next week on Wednesday. But the other flat is also in a tower block and will probably also have thin walls. I'm going to look at it anyway to show the landlord my good intentions and to gain some experience.

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[Avrie]

You know, as a contractor what really bothers me is how simple the 'slamming door' issue is to fix. There are small 'self-sticking' cork, or felt squares, available at any hardware store that are usually used as replacement 'feet' so project boxes don't slide around and scratch the furniture.

Just two of them stuck to the inside of the jamb on the latch side would effectively silence the slamming. And the material cost would be next to nothing. I use them to silence kitchen cabinet doors all the time. Felt would probably be better for a full size door, but we're talking pennies, and a five minute fix.

Here's a sample link from a local store... For the price of a cup of coffee...

https://www.acehardware.com/departments ... ds/5089545